Free To Be You Contest!



This has probably been done before…so you can withhold from me the gold star for creativity…but it will be fun!  But seriously, what is contest with no prize…it is a contest with no prize!!!  Ok…you L lovers, fine! The prize will be 10,000L…that is right, I will part with $40.79 USD of my very own disposable income for you to entertain me!


1. The alt avatar must have a born on freshness date of at least January 25, 2014.  You must have a main that can be verified.

2. You can not enter the default starter avatar even though technically it is free…How boring ;P

3. Everything that you outfit, equip, or adorn your alt avatar with must be a freebie!

4. Yes, Demos are free…but…no…not allowed!

5. Join the group and upload your pics here:

6. Only one alt entry – 2 pics allowed!

7. Have fun!

I will participate but will of course not be entered in the prize pool.   The contest will end next Saturday…February 1, 2014!

Can’t wait to see your entries!  ALT UP!






So it is almost OBR time again in SL and of course it was entirely to difficult to resist heading over to Slutrix blog to see what kind of bullshit she had to offer this year:   


Found this little nugget of nonsense:


Slutrix states:


There are women who raise their sons to become misogynists and even rapists.  Women who raise their daughters to accept and embrace rape and violence as “what women deserve”.  I really don’t understand why.  Stockholm Syndrome?  Unhealthy rivalry with other women?  When it comes to explaining this phenomenon, I really am at a loss.


Women are raising their sons to become misogynist and rapists –

Women raising their daughters to accept and embrace rape and violence –


Wow- women are just evil.


Perhaps Slutrix lives in a cave in a third world country where they still rape, plunder, and pillage.  Don’t know, don’t care.  As a woman, and the mother of a daughter, with associations with many other woman and mothers, I can say that I have never seen evidence of this “phenomenon” among the women I keep company with.  Perhaps the “phenomenon” can not be explained because it does not exist except in the minds of women who have a passionate hatred for men.


Unhealthy rivalry with other women is a catalyst for teaching your son to rape and your daughter to accept and embrace rape?  How exactly might that rivalry be won?  The woman to produce the highest number of raping sons and submissive daughters wins?  I think the only thing Slutrix is at a loss of is her mind.


More from Slutrix:

Make no mistake: Rape is a huge problem.  Contrary to the sexist narration that is used to dismiss anti-rape campaigns, rape is not the problem of women who are “asking for it” (I’ve got news for you: NO woman is “asking for it”) or the problem of “hysterical feminazis”.  It is the result of the rape culture, i.e. the result of an ongoing “education” and upbringing of the general population, teaching men and women to believe that:

  • “Contrary to men,” women are genetically not equipped to be rational, and therefore are genetically inferior to men (see the discredited, pseudo-scientific Triune/Reptilian Brain theory used by misogynists to justify their ideology);


  • Women are not entitled to have sexual desires – if they do, they are “sluts”, “whores” and “deserve to be raped”;

You should get out of the cave more.  This is 2014.  If being called a “slut” is considered a bad thing and offensive to you, why would you name yourself “Slutrix?”  Where is this hoard of individuals that think women deserve to be the target of a violent assault because of their desire to have sex?  

  • Women are not entitled to be respected in their family, social and professional environment;

My family, social, and professional environments did not receive this memo and have treated me with respect, and as I look around at my smiling female colleagues,  I do not think I have been singled out as a special snowflake. 

Good Lord…Godwin’d your own blog entry.

  • Women are to blame for everything that’s wrong about society;

According to you, that is a true statement…here, let me quote you:

“There are women who raise their sons to become misogynists and even rapists.  Women who raise their daughters to accept and embrace rape and violence as “what women deserve”.  I really don’t understand why.  Stockholm Syndrome?  Unhealthy rivalry with other women?”

  • Women are not supposed or allowed to demand better treatment and ought to shut the fuck up and take all the abuse, because that’s what they deserve – and all this because of the gender they were born in.





I don’t think I have ever seen an anti-rape campaign altogether dismissed, although I and others have indicated that there are venues where anti-rape campaigns appear to be disingenuous—Like in Second Life because it is rife with rape sims, BDSM, dolcet, Gor, etc., which seems more “rape cultured” than the every day RL society that I live in.  OBR is represented by a cluster of people like Slutrix that eagerly embraces and supports individuals who use violent language, threaten, and openly engage in rape play…it just seems counterintuitive to the cause and therefore, difficult to take seriously.  OBR in Second Life may allow those who could not otherwise participate an opportunity to be involved…but at what expense to the cause?  I still believe and will continue to believe that these efforts held in SL serve only to trivialize.

What is the “Rape Culture?”

Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture.  Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women’s bodies, and the glamorization of sexual violence, thereby creating a society that disregards women’s rights and safety.

Rape Culture affects every woman.  The rape of one woman is a degradation, terror, and limitation to all women.  Most women and girls limit their behavior because of the existence of rape.  Most women and girls live in fear of rape.  Men, in general, do not.  That’s how rape functions as a powerful means by which the whole female population is held in a subordinate position to the whole male population, even though many men don’t rape, and many women are never victims of rape.  This cycle of fear is the legacy of Rape Culture.

Examples of Rape Culture:

  • Blaming the victim (“She asked for it!”)
  • Trivializing sexual assault (“Boys will be boys!”)
  • Sexually explicit jokes
  • Tolerance of sexual harassment
  • Inflating false rape report statistics
  • Publicly scrutinizing a victim’s dress, mental state, motives, and history
  • Gratuitous gendered violence in movies and television
  • Defining “manhood” as dominant and sexually aggressive
  • Defining “womanhood” as submissive and sexually passive
  • Pressure on men to “score”
  • Pressure on women to not appear “cold”
  • Assuming only promiscuous women get raped
  • Assuming that men don’t get raped or that only “weak” men get raped
  • Refusing to take rape accusations seriously
  • Teaching women to avoid getting raped instead of teaching men not to rape

Of course, I can’t speak for the entire population of women, only myself.  I don’t and never have lived in fear of being raped.  Like most people, men and women alike, I fear violence in general.  The WHOLE population of women are held in a subordinate position to an occurrence they may or may not ever happen?  No.  WTF?  Seriously…  Fear mongering much?  Teaching men not to rape…They should produce the evidence that demonstrates that this is even possible.  Rape as a learned behavior?  Interesting.

According to the list above D/s feeds this “rape culture”.  I guess that 6 pages of D/s drop shit on Slutrix page is perpetuating the culture.   

I have no idea why “Inflating false rape stats” is on the list when the habit of inflating unreported, and under prosecuted claims stats are made up everyday by certain groups, groups that often feel compelled to falsely claim that “NO WOMAN WOULD EVER LIE ABOUT BEING RAPED!

Here are just a few from over the years that have done just that:



Just a point of relevance from the above list regarding the scrutinizing of a persons history, motive, and mental state—had it not been done, rather publically in the case of Sara Ylen, the man she managed to put in prison earlier with the false rape claim would still be rotting in prison…and two more might have also gone to jail despite their innocence.


Apparently, some women don’t believe that a man’s life and/or freedom is worth even a measly $14.00.  Where are the OBR in outrage at these monster women? 


 I’m sure women like Slutrix will be happy when 1 in 3 men are falsely accused and jailed for rapes that they did not commit…I guess she will just chalk that up to owed reparation for her long suffering because she has a life limiting vagina and can’t overcome her self induced inferiority complex.


Rape is a horrible act of violence and the thought of it strikes fear in both men and women.   There is no doubt about that.  I’m not convinced that lack of awareness of the issue is the problem.  Until honesty becomes a component of the intent to make aware, and both sides of the issue are addressed, this will be another treadmill event. 

2014 New Year Meme


Meme Instructions: Copy and paste the following question and answers, delete my answers and input your own. Don’t forget to leave a link to your post in the comments.

  1. How did you spend New Year’s Eve?  At home chatting on SL with Auryn 😛
  2. Did you keep any new years’ resolutions?  Not yet.
  3. What was your biggest achievement(s) of the year?  It was a work related thing in RL…in SL, I learned how to make normal and specular maps, and made some progress with Blender.
  4. What was the best thing you bought? In RL a Samsung Note 3 – In SL…A Blender Tute from Black Tulip…even though it caused me physical pain to actually have to read directions 😛
  5. What do you wish you’d done more of? In RL – Taking time away from work…In SL-reading
  6. What do you wish you’d done less of? In RL, probably dedicated too much time to work and family and did not take enough “me” time, now I’m behind on physical, eye exam, blah, blah, blah…  In SL…nothing really.
  7. What was your favorite movie you watched this year? I did not see too many movies this past year, but The Great Gatsby stands out, although I did not love all instances of the modern interpretation of the movie…still good.
  8. What did you do on your birthday this year? You mean last year?  Had a super bowl/birthday party.
  9. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned.  Read the directions.
  10. What does 2014 hold for you? More work, work travel, work…sigh, work.  Thankfully, I love my work.